How to accept and love yourself unconditionally.
Nobody can reject you without your consent.
As humans our greatest need is acceptance and our greatest fear is rejection.
It's our primal instinct. As much as we've evolved through the centuries, our brains have pretty much stayed the same. We still have that fight or flight response centre called the Amygdala that fires up when we feel that our safety or survival is threatened. It's our stress response centre, which unfortunately fires up more than it should these days with the stressful lives we live. But that's a whole different blog post.
One of the ways we feel safe and secure is our connection with others, it's the feeling of belonging and being accepted we get by our families, friends and communities. It's how we identify with our very existence, with who we are, and how we make sense of our environment or lives.
This instinct goes way back to the times of our ancestors who lived in tribes and back then a person was punished by being isolated or ostracised from their tribe.
Can you imagine how terrifying and scary that must have been? Being part of the tribe meant safety in numbers, it meant food and shelter, your basic needs were reliant on being part of the tribe.
It hasn't changed much over the years.
We need to feel like we belong and that we're accepted by our families, our friends and our communities.
Have you ever fallen out with someone in your family, your friend, or a work colleague? You feel out of sorts, it's constantly on your mind and it's a lonely place to be. It takes it's toll on your self-esteem, your self-worth and your confidence. Your emotions are all over the place your angry, guilty, frustrated, self-righteous, sad and maybe even feel like the victim.
But what about self-acceptance and self-rejection?
A-ha, I bet you were so busy thinking about who has rejected, judged and criticised you that you never thought of yourself! Most of us don't, we're so busy judging others for judging us.
But how many times a day do you call yourself nasty names like stupid, pathetic, lazy, fat?
tell yourself you're not smart enough, young enough, rich enough, thin enough etc..?
This way of thinking and talking are all ways that you reject, judge and criticise yourself AND they are absolutely stopping you from having the life you want.
Rejection, judgement and criticism are all opposite to loving yourself and self-acceptance.
If you're serious and you want to start creating a different life, a better life then you have to this destructive pattern of put-downs. It's not hard to do, it's just unfamiliar. It's not going to happen overnight and there will be times when you slip into default mode, but it is possible!
This change has to happen on a subconscious level, because this is were this thinking lives. Time to evict your critical inner voice and replace it with unconditional acceptance and love.
You do not need the acceptance of others. You need the acceptance of yourself - unconditionally.
That means accepting your mistakes, your perceived failings and short-comings. Accept them, let them go and move on.
When you love and accept yourself you bring out the best in yourself!
The only way you can be rejected, judged or criticised by someone is if you also hold the same opinion of yourself.
And why would you do that? There is no benefit or up-side to holding onto your critical judgements.
That is why I've created a special 21 Day hypnosis recording for you - because I believe you deserve to love and accept yourself greatly!
As you do, you will begin to attract and create a more fulfilling, happier and abundant life.
Your self-belief and confidence will grow as you become the best version of yourself.
Are you ready and committed?
Send me my free Self-Acceptance 21 Day recording today
Don't forget to let me know how you get on, if you have any questions send me an email to email@example.com
Here's to becoming the best version of yourself!
Sorcha McAloon is a Success Coach who was a former Police Officer in N. Ireland, and through her own transformation of childhood traumas and injury sustained on duty her life took a new and very different direction.
Now she is a Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapist, Advanced Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Re-imprinting Practitioner.
Her clients hail from all corners of the globe as she works over Zoom as well as Face to Face.
Sorcha specialises in working with high achieving women who feel stuck and frustrated and don’t know how to take the next step to creating a life they want. She helps these women to believe in themselves and have more confidence to go after what they really want. She can help you too become the best version of yourself.
You can contact Sorcha directly by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org
NOTE: This recording is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice/treatment or a diagnosis. By downloading and listening to this recording you agree to take full personal responsibility for your own well-being. Not suitable for epileptics. See full T&C's at www.sorchamcaloon.com